I’ve been upset this week to be confronted on more than one occasion by angry, aggressive, judgemental vegans.
My reasons for being vegan have been questioned and rubbished, my delay in becoming vegan has been judged. That first one made me laugh to be honest (after I was cross). How can you be vegan for the “wrong reasons”?
Would a pig/cow/chicken/deer really care about the reasons why you do or don’t eat it? (if you shoot a deer, say, is he really gonna care why/ what colour your pants are?)
These angry, aggressive, judgemental vegans obviously have issues. As I said to a contact on twitter, he who fights with another fights himself. It’s corny, but true.
But what they don’t seem to realise is that it is precisely the aggressive, judgemental attitudes that put people off veganism. It’s exactly the same with Christianity.
Frankly, I’m sick of it. Self-righteousness is a massive turn-off. Six weeks in? I’m not sure I want to be associated with the name vegan if this is what it’s about.
Whether they realise it or not, they’re ambassadors for the cause. If you don’t show empathy for other humans, you can hardly expect people to buy into the empathy for animals you say you’re promoting.
It has made me realise that, just because we share one thing, veganism, or Christianity, or whatever, it doesn’t mean that we will get on. Everyone has issues, and being vegan or Christian (or Buddhist or whatever) doesn’t mean you’ve resolved them. It doesn’t even mean that you’re self-aware enough to recognise you have them.
As I read recently, there’s no upper roof to veganism. Read empathy for that instead. You haven’t “arrived’ when you become vegan / Christian or whatever. If you’re not open to re-examining yourself, if you’re not aware that there’s room to grow, you’ll be stuck in an ugly rut. It’s not attractive, people.