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  • Mrs Chakotay 9:10 pm on November 24, 2016 Permalink | Reply
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    The Best Laid Plans… 

    I know it couldnt be further from husband’s mind, but after this most recent unexpected pregnancy and miscarriage I had hoped than once we were in our own home finally we would be able to start the adoption process again.

    But two weeks before we were due to move house, my mother had an emotional crisis and was showing such severe signs of confusion and possible dementia that it was decided she would have to move in with us.

    So there goes our ‘spare’ bedroom. Mum has actually been much better in the six weeks she’s been with us, so the plan is to make this a permanent arrangement.

    Maybe it was just never meant to be. Every time our situation was starting to look promising, another hurdle would be thrown up in our way.

    And now of course, I’m 45 so even if I could get on top of my health issues (I’m currently being investigated for Cushing’s and Diabetes Insipidus, all relating back to a head injury I had back in 1983) it would be too late for babies.

    I keep thinking that I should just give up making plans and just let life wash over me and take it as it comes. Just shrug my shoulders and accept that whatever will be will be.

    Years ago (actually straight after I lost my twins), a friend suggested I get myself a puppy. At the time I thought it was a really insensitive thing to say. But now, after 13 years of empty arms, secondary infertility and multiple recurrent miscarriages, I would settle for a teddy bear.

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  • Mrs Chakotay 3:45 pm on July 2, 2016 Permalink | Reply
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    Surprise Pregnancy  

    Well this is truly a big surprise!

    After my youngest son Kim was born 13 years ago, I had a run of miscarriages including twins at 14 weeks and since then, 5 years of secondary infertility. I had assumed that I was not far away from menopause.

    I wasn’t expecting to be a mom again. I really thought it was too late, that it was outside the realm of possibility.

    But here we are!

    Chakotay has told me that I mustn’t get my hopes up, and although I’m thrilled (and slightly terrified!) I dare not get excited.

    So what has happened to suddenly increase my fertility so late in life? Two things have changed – 1) I gave up dairy and eggs in addition to meat, so I’m now eating a plant-based, vegan diet. And 2) My doctor put me on Metformin to help me lose weight. I haven’t actually lost any weight sadly but it may have corrected my hormonal imbalance just enough.

    I know it’s too early to start thinking about names – there may not be a baby after all, it’s just too soon to know if this will be a successful pregnancy. But favourites in the Chakotay household so far are: Jean-Luc or Luke for a boy and Annika (as in Hanson – Seven’s human name) for a girl. I’m not sure though I might have to veto that one!

    Wish me luck?

     
    • Valerie 6:55 pm on July 2, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      Congratulations!! ❤
      I'm so sorry for your losses. ((hugs)) Here's to a healthy and happy 9 (10) months! 😉

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    • The Smiling Pilgrim 9:12 pm on July 2, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      Congrats!!!!

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